Love is Love:Taboo Relationships

By Mesa Messenger Editorial Staff

Society has an accepted “norm” when it comes to personal relationships—one that limits many people who are too afraid to explore outside of that norm. The societal expectation only accepts heterosexual, monogamous couples that are close in age. Realistically, not every couple is as mundane.

With Grand Junction having a fairly conservative demographic, it isn’t too common to see or hear about couples in taboo relationships in the area. This is not to say they aren’t here—they just don’t feel comfortable making their affairs as public as “normal” couples might.

A lesbian couple from Colorado Mesa University opened up about their relationship, but asked to not be named. One of the girls explained how “[my girlfriend’s] family sometimes uses her sexuality and our relationship as an insult to her political beliefs…but it doesn’t get us or her down”. The other explained some problems they have ran into with having two women as a part of a relationship, such as she has “noticed women are generally more emotional and when you combine emotional with emotional, it can be intense.”

According to, 63 percent of Grand Junction citizens claim that LGBT residents are somewhat accepted.

Another CMU student, Isaiah Bohn, married his husband on the school campus in November of 2015. Looking at the difficulties they have gone through, he explains how “family isn’t always supportive and through our relationship a lot of them haven’t been”, going on further to explain how his grandmother is having trouble “accepting that we are married.”

Jarid Rouse, a nontraditional student at CMU, has been married to his wife for 13 years now, and they also have a 13 year age difference between them. He explains how “any and all issues that we may have had have been resolved” and how he is “sure people judge us all the time, but I really don’t care.”

It’s not only LGBT and age gapped relationships that break the societal norm. Leah Cardenas, a Colorado native who now goes to school in Nebraska, has experience dating a couple. She emphasized that their “thruple” was not only about sex, they “were actually able to hang out with each other, and it felt like I’d known these people my whole life”. She also explains how her time with them was “truly wonderful, I was into both of them, and not once did I wish I was with just one of them.”

Love is love, no matter the circumstances. These people in our community experience the same kind of love as everyone else, but everyone does it in their own unique way. That is part of what makes loving each other so exciting. As playwright Lin Manuel-Miranda expressed, “…love is love is love is love, cannot be killed or swept aside…now fill the world with music, love and pride.”


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